Encore Careers

The countdown is getting serious and I have to keep my attention from wandering. I want to go out strong from my Continue reading

Like Puzzle Pieces

Across the crowded dance floor my eyes fell upon a man. I knew, at that moment, he would complete me. My life would be intertwined with his forever.

But this story isn’t about him. It’s about the Continue reading

Silver Lining Words

Perception is very important and how which word is applied is very important. Take bossy for example. It comes across as negative but if you use assertive it changes the perception. You can insert several different words into the same sentence and try it out to see the change that viewing it turned around imparts.

Darci Lang, author of Focus on the 90% had an excellent September blog post. Her site won’t let me link  but can be found here at http://www.darcilang.com/blog.  I am giving her  direct credit here so I am reposting her timely post.

It seems like almost everyone I have talked with this month is stressed. People are using words like “crazy, busy and insane”. What can we do to make September a happier month?
#1. Stop using words like crazy, busy and insane. Replace them with positive words. I know I am too damn happy but I say “blessed” a lot. When people say, “Oh you must be so busy!”, they are right, but my response is “I am and that is a blessing!” Feel grateful for the abundance of work and the luxury of going to school.
#2. Sleep and eat well. Every year, I enter September realizing the need for the basics to be done really well. You can’t possibly expect to have great outcomes at work, within our schools or in our homes if we don’t feel well. Look after your whole self.
#3. Make “today”, “this week” and “this month” lists. I still write everything down…old school. There is something euphoric about being able to cross things off. Just dig in and get it done!
#4. Avoid all toxic people. I know, easier said than done. Do all that you can do to protect yourself from anyone who has the power to rent space in your head. Negative people are in every workplace, classroom and community. They rarely change. Let’s get really good at making sure they don’t win and affect our performance.
#5. Look at what you are complaining about and ask yourself,” Is this something I knew would be a stressful part of my leadership role, job or schooling?” Chances are yes, you knew. Complaining is a habit, change the habit.
#6. Unsubscribe, direct deposit and don’t touch a piece of mail more than once. Look at every area of your life and ask, “Can I get rid of this?”
#7. Set serious personal boundaries. I could work 15 hours a day but I don’t. Set clear defined boundaries around when you are done work and when you take time to stop studying.
September in our office is flat out, back to work, speaking two or three times a week in different cities now until the end of year. Aren’t we blessed?
Happy September!
Darci

I recently had a gentle reminder that I need to find my 90% glasses at work. Maybe we all occasionally need a reminder that, despite the issues we might be facing, we are indeed blessed. Let’s face it that anyone reading this blog is literate and has access to a computer. That also implies that there is free access to read whatever sites you’d like to read and that the writer is not being censored.

I fully recognize that many people are dealing with difficult issues such as mental health struggles, death of loved ones or loss of health to name but a few. Which maybe means that we have to dig deeper to find the word that chances perception. Or as my mother said yesterday we should all try to be a little kinder to each other. My act of kindness today was birthday cake; turtle pecan cheesecake.

Bernie

B2B (back to blogging)

I seemed to have been a bit absent in the blogging world during August. There was a variety of “stuff” that happened which all preempted blogging.

Then last night my Continue reading

For Better or Worse

About a kazillion years ago we said “I do” along with the words “for better or worse, in sickness and in health”. When you are 22 those words don’t have the same connotation that they carry as we age. Of course that is a generalization because many young couples face some tough times and ill health.

The odds though increase as we age. We have Continue reading

The “Sign”

This post started out a lot differently than it is going to end.

On Wednesday, or Tuesday perhaps as holidays distort the days of the week, I awoke to a Continue reading

32 weeks

The title makes it sound like I’ve started a pregnancy blog. Heaven forbid at my age! I’m counting down rather than up so it’s an update on my retirement calendar. Although it may actually be 34 weeks and not 32 but more info is required before the initial decision maybe be changed.

Here is the two part why. Ron believes he read somewhere that the best date is the end of your birthday month. On my list of things to do in June is contact the retirement section of human resources and get the low down. The other aspect of the date is that a certain someone in my life will be in Vegas at the King Memorial Soccer tournament. Bad luck that the Friday after my 60th birthday happens to be that weekend. SO if I want my man around for my ultimate TGIF I may have to delay it a week. So then what is two weeks.

I did learn a few things this last two weeks that I have been on holidays. In no particular order and because I love lists.

  • I will miss the people but I won’t miss the grind of daily work or getting lunches organized and up on time.
  • I will be busy; my days won’t be boring or empty of things to do
  • I will need some structure so I don’t fritter away time
  • I will need to establish a sleep/wake up routine so I don’t become a total night owl
  • I need at least 2 days per week where I don’t run to the city.

The things I’m so looking forward to, like gran time and creative time, will be done without sacrificing other things. I’m hoping for more friend time and more me time.

The pictures of this post have no bearing on the words. Just some shots that filled my heart with joy today so felt like sharing them.

Thanks for stopping in to read. It’s always nice to connect.

Bernie

Ps – recognize the crocuses now??

Report Card 1

Report card day was never my favourite day as I never really had an idea what the teacher or the exam results would say. Then of course add in the fact that I failed one of my five final nursing exams. Makes sense why report card day brings a sense of trepidation to me.

So why would I Continue reading