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Beneath the seams

She walked into the store confidently. She knew exactly what she wanted and how to turn that into the vision in her head. She, of absolute faith.

Which, in reality, was outside my comfort zone. And yet I agreed to rise to the challenge.  Some online research and messaging with a very talented friend and I finally felt ready to tackle the project. It required taking steps I wasn’t used to, going into uncharted territory and facing my fears.

There were some modifications to the original pattern which had an impact that I hadn’t foreseen. I cut out the first two pieces not on the fold (first big duh moment) but that was ok as then I realized there was a nap to the material (and like why is it the same word as having an afternoon siesta?) so some care was  required to get all pieces cut out correctly for stretch and nap. The “trial pieces” then became my practise for pinning, stitching and whether or not to iron seams.

Hang in there non sewing friends there is a point not related to the project coming up.

I worked away at it, with increased fervour as Christmas Day draws nearer. There are issues like I can’t find the sleeve pattern, the bodice is still too long. But through trial, error, persistence and passion I keep progressing.

And now it’s ready for a little girl to wear on Christmas Day and she will be delighted. I hope it’s close to Momma’s vision. It’s definitely not perfect. The side seams want to pucker for some reason plus the neck band did not lay as well as it should have because I forgot that I changed the neckline and didn’t adjust the band.

And that’s what draws me to the real conclusions. Which I’m hoping all you non-sewing people stuck around for because it’s my Christmas message.

Life is not perfect. We all have seams that rip out or pucker when we least want or expect it. Life is messy like that neck line. And added into all of it we somehow have this unrealistic expectations that at Christmas it’s suddenly going to become perfect. But life doesn’t always do what we want it to.

So in each situation we just need to do our best. Our best to embrace the nonperfect. Our best to help those that need help. Our best to keep faith and hope alive. Our best to use kindness and compassion to those around us.

There are many people out there that are struggling this Christmas. Whether it be finances, depression, anxiety, grief, Covid issues, direct impact of climate crisis or health concerns. And that’s just a few of the things that could be affecting people. I’ve talked about it many times but probably best here at White picket fence. What we show the world isn’t always what’s on the inside and life can be hard, scary and difficult.

So while we have a vision of what we want our life to be like sometimes the choices we make and other factors can have a huge impact. Perhaps for a while it seems like we’re not even headed in the right direction.

But that’s where the faith, hope and kindness come into play. At Christmas time and beyond we must live these virtues.

May you find some of the above for your holiday seasons.

Best wishes,



I have had a love of the written word for my entire life. It's no surprise that eventually I found a platform where I could write. It's random; sometimes funny, occasionally sad, maybe even at times from anger and I lean towards creative photography and hands on crafts. I have a few blogs that high light these interests.

14 thoughts on “Beneath the seams

  1. Take nothing for granted and be thankful that you have such great family and friends to spend this joyous season with. Wishing you a delightful Christmas. Aiva 🙂


    1. Exactly Avia. Who knows when what we take for granted is ripped away in some form. So it’s important to practice both gratitude and mindfulness to really absorb being present. Take care and hope your Christmas was a lovely one. Thanks for reading and responding. Bernie

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  2. Any gift made and given with love is a perfect gift Bernie. I am sure she will treasure it. Thanks for sharing your creation and thoughts. Have a Merry Christmas. Allan


      1. Yes those days after Christmas are always a delight (if you aren’t a shift worker or in retail!). Major cold snap here so enjoying some inside time. New snow so hope to start a snowshoeing soon.

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    1. Thanks Donna. Sometimes the words seem to write themselves. I actually used dictate while I was pinning the last sleeve into place and the words flowed out. I so agree with your wish. I am so appreciative of finding your blog world and how accepting and friendly they are. Take care. Bernie


    1. Thank you my friend. I knew you’d read to the end as a creative friend! I might even get to post a picture of the little girl in the dress. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. Enjoy your holiday season and I am so glad you have time off.

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    1. Thanks so much for the “lovely” on both the gift and the words as well as the blessings. It’s all about the kindness and I so appreciate your reading and stopping in to engage with a comment. May you find some peace and joy this season. Take care. Bernie

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