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Pause and Reflection

It was an unusual sort of day. Not due to the date but rather because of it.

I’ve always been a proud Canadian and while I still love the country and the people the past month has opened my eyes. Things I never saw through my white privilege eyes before. So now we must do better and that is what Canada Day became for me this year. A chance to pause and reflect.

I pulled together some of the best posts I saw today on how we can take action and support the Indigenous, Metis and Inuit who called Canada home long before us.

I will be following along on social media with the 94 in 94. Days and actions. Actions that aren’t up to just my government but that individuals can take on. This will be my way of stepping up to the plate.

Tonight I put one of them into action – the space to engage in history that needs to be shared. A quiet reflective time together with 6 close friends where much discussion was shared about what actions we need to take on. What the history of our Canada really is and how we help with the truth and reconciliation.

First supper gathering in 16+ months

Tomorrow I am going to sit inside when it’s 38 bazillion degrees outside and watch We Were Children.

It seems like two small steps but it’s a start in my journey towards truth and reconciliation.

I ask my Canadian readers – what actions will you take?



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14 thoughts on “Pause and Reflection

  1. Thank you for the mention of the film We Were Children. I will watch it tonight. I have never truly embraced Canada Day, or Independence Day ( I am an American Citizen) or Thanksgiving (Columbus Day)- other than for the act of simply giving thanks and gratitude for the bounty of life shared with loved ones. To me, those “Days” don’t commemorate what they were designated for by immigrant Europeans, to me they stand for Colonization Day. Nothing to celebrate or be proud of there.


    1. The film is a hard emotional watch. The two children in it survive but at what cost to their mental, physical and cultural wellbeing. Hundreds more did not survive and we must face what our government policies and our white privilege blinkers hide from our view. We must do better and I feel like perhaps Canadians are now taking the steps forward that we need to. Thanks for stopping by to comment. Obviously you were ahead of the game on just giving thanks and recognizing what colonization did. Bernie


    1. Janis, I felt that nothing less would do. It seems we in Canada are at a crossroads in handling our past and our future. I hope our momentum can help swing us towards both truth and reconciliation. Thanks for reading and commenting. Bernie


    1. I feel like I am already behind in the 94 in 94. I want to really sort through each recommendation as it comes up which requires a time commitment. I also have a lot of reading coming through the library and some more podcasts/shows to watch. We Were Children — my steps towards doing better. Thanks for stopping Louise.


    1. It certainly was and it is only 2 stories of thousands. They made it home but not whole by any stretch of the imagination. It is hard to phantom how incredibly scary and difficult it was for them. Add to that the diseases and the malnourishment. We must all step up to the plate and learn. Thanks for stopping in Jane.

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  2. I continue to support Indigenous small business, and on June 21 I made a donation (that was then tripled by a large donor) to an organization that supports Indigenous peoples’ healing. I wore an orange shirt yesterday and saw so many others do so as well. Besides being my daughter’s birthday, it was a day of reflection for me on what this nation has done to its first peoples.



    1. That’s a step Deb that I had not thought of – supporting Indigenous small business – so will have to do some local searching. I do not own a single orange item but by Orange shirt day in Sept I certainly will. Reflection was certainly the order of the day. Thanks for stopping by with a heart felt comment about how you are facing this national crisis.

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  3. Good post Bernie. About a year ago, we subscribed to “You Need This Box” which provided an educational package and several studies and exercises to attempt to explain discrimination and White Privilege. It was eye opening and I have not looked at things through the same lens since. The constant striving for control, money and power on the backs of the people and to Hell with the consequences needs to stop. Dialogue and cooperation is a much better option than rhetoric and confrontation. It should never be about them and us. It should always be about we. Hope you are keeping well. The heat is breaking here (only up to 31 today), so will be a welcome relief. Keep well. Allan


    1. Allan, That sounds like a very interesting educational package. I also see that there is a University of Alberta free course that looks like it covers lots of topics. We all need to do the work which you and Patti seem to have already started. I do feel like perhaps there is now momentum for the changes that need to happen. I hope this 94 in 94 can put some pressure on government. Time will tell. Thanks for the thoughtful comment. Bernie


  4. Love this, Bernie. I think so many of us have had our eyes opened further to things that we maybe knew but didn’t prioritize, and hoped that passivity was enough.

    I had a long kitchen table discussion this morning with three colleagues — two Egyptian, one French — who had read the headlines but wanted to talk more about the discovery of the unmarked graves in Canada. “I’m totally shocked,” one of them said, over and over. They traced commonalities of experience — one of the Egyptian guys wondered why the deaths went unreported, why the police weren’t notified. “But,” said our French colleague, “think about in Egypt. Would a woman go to the police if she was raped?” “No! They’d blame her! … oh I see now. Same thing.”

    It’s important for me to talk about my country in an honest and comprehensive way when I’m working in international teams. Because most people have only been exposed to the rhetoric that our government and many of our citizens have been spouting for years: that we’re polite, nice, peaceful, friendly, welcoming, better than Americans, etc. But Canadian history and current events need to take their place amongst the shameful human rights abuses and inequalities that happen all around the world. It’s time to get down off our high horse.

    I’m looking forward to following some of the resources you’ve provided, and talking to my wider circle back home about what they’re seeing, doing, learning, and changing.

    We can be better. And we must. 🧡


    1. I never meant to be on a high horse but I have been. Part of white privilege and a sheltered life. I am doing better at learning the truth. I am glad you are able to share honestly the whole story with your multinational teams. You are such a strong leader. It is important that we in Canada continue to have those discussions. We watched We Were Children last night. I have numerous books on order via the library and will follow along a couple of good sites I have found on Instagram. We must do the work and I feel like the momentum is moving forward for all Canadians to face these issues (well maybe not so much the government). Thanks for the thoughtful comment. Take care and BIG HUGS D.


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