My eldest sent me a text yesterday asking what I would like for my birthday. Truth is that I can’t have what I want for my birthday.
I’m not alone here in spending a special day not surrounded by family and friends. By the time we come back into social gatherings everyone will have faced a birthday without the usual vibes around them.
So rather than focusing on what I can’t have like a sit down supper, board games with our kids, hugs and sleepovers with the littles. To say nothing of the mass bedlam from 7 dogs inside the house. Who knew that such a regular family occurrence would be the one thing we can’t have.
I focused on what I can have and made the best of it. I truly did. Some quilting time in the sunshine in my favourite room. A small amount of time to finish up a woodworking project.
Then on to the main event outside. So blessed that it was -3. The wind negated the fire we had planned but we found the “sweet spot’ in the sun and out of the wind. The grandchildren and the dogs played. The GT and the tobogan (and the adults pulling) got a work out. The cupcakes were delicious and the beer stayed cold! Some special friends dropped in for a short visit to add to the icing on the cake day. The sun shone all day long and that was fabulous for my soul. The dogs had a wild time with constant action.
Another blessing of a birthday in this day and age are the phone calls, texts, messages and greetings sent through technology. So many people took time out of their day to reach out and touch base with me and it was wonderful. Truly outstanding.
Growing old is a privilege that not everyone gets. Sure it comes with some negatives but it comes with a lot more positives. Perhaps I’m naive and it’s easy to say this at 62 compared to 30 years from now. Or perhaps because I’ve lead a life of privilege from winning the birth lottery which lead to an education and a profession that gave me a great quality of life.
But truly if you keep moving, learning and enjoying the moments that make up the days it’s all on the good side – even in the middle of a pandemic.