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What to Say

I am finding it very difficult to write this post. It’s easy to say or do the wrong things while having the best of intentions. The PM is taking flack for his 22 second pause. Instragram users who inserted black squares for the day took flack if they failed to follow it up with Black Lives Matter info. So I’ve thought long and hard.

I’ve been concerned that by staying silent it is interpreted as violence or at the least a lack of support to the Black Lives Matter cause. Then I was like wait a minute, it’s not like I have a lot of readers or influence anyway. But then I was like “no I need to address the issues”. So what I’ve been doing is listening, learning and trying to absorb it.  Spending time chatting with my other half about it. Reflecting about my/our white privilege. Also the fact that, without my doing a single thing, my life has been built on white supremacy. Never mind that my grandparents came from the poorest of poor when they immigrated to Canada.

I have read a lot this week and two blog posts have really stood out. Both were written by white Canadians and I can see they face the same struggles I can read them here atLost for Words — 22 Long Seconds and In my Garden We aren’t racist but we do have white privilege. We do have a voice and actions and we are all trying to figure out how we can help. I’ve also added a link to an American blogger I follow for a front line view of how Life Goes On but what needs to happen next down there. Here at home it’s a different political story but the same background issues.

There were two videos that were the most educational.  The first was the Daily Show host Trevor Noah’s “Take“. He brings an interesting perspective as a South African black living in the States. He helped look deeply at the issue. He spoke from his heart and his voice reaches millions. Let’s hope we can all listen and learn.

The second video I watched I found on Instrgram. I had to look up who Emmanuel Acho is. Don’t jump on me for not knowing; I don’t follow the CFL that close and I don’t follow the NFL at all. He’s a former linebacker for the Philadelphia Eagles and is now an analyst on ESPN (thanks Wikipedia). He calls his video “uncomfortable conversations with a black man” and again sheds a lot of light on what the barriers are really like. I strongly encourage you to follow the LINK to listen to him.

“The only way we can solve this issue,” Acho concludes, “Is by exposure, education, compassion and empathy.”

The poster that the little girl is holding has the best analogy. It calls us to stand up and be the voice. Have the difficult conversations to plant the seeds of change. I know I have had to with my parents and my brother.

We must all stand up and speak. Here in Canada we can’t sweep the indigenous peoples concerns aside. If we encounter racism we must speak out against it.

I fear my words and my actions aren’t enough but we must start somewhere. There are all kinds of learning opportunities that POC are posting so that we can educate ourselves. That in itself points to where we came from. We need to educate ourselves while they live “it”.



I have had a love of the written word for my entire life. It's no surprise that eventually I found a platform where I could write. It's random; sometimes funny, occasionally sad, maybe even at times from anger and I lean towards creative photography and hands on crafts. I have a few blogs that high light these interests.

12 thoughts on “What to Say

  1. Thanks for sharing your research with us. I will look up those links. For myself, I am aware of what is going on but I haven’t gone looking for more information about the topic at this time. Racism is a very important topic. One that I have seen up close. I am trying my best to treat everyone I encounter with equal respect and dignity. Being human means I will at some point fall short, so I keep trying to be better and instead of pointing my finger at others, I examine my own thoughts and actions first.


    1. I know you and your heart, it seems doing the right thing comes naturally to you. I am sure there have been times when you’ve had to stand up for those you love. Thanks for stopping in and leaving a comment about this complex difficult issue that the entire world faces.

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  2. SO True!! We have no idea. And people who act like it’s no big deal…get over it…as we all have in our own family and friends…are unwilling to look and learn, and try to gain some insight so they can be a better human!! It’s not enough now to NOT be racist…we need to start speaking up and actively being ANTI-RACIST. …having said that it’s uncomfortable to do that and take that step….as I was uncomfortably quiet when a family member made a joke about BLM during a zoom with my siblings. One laughed..and two of us sat in obvious awkward unhappy discomfort pause. We both didn’t actually say anything but I’m going to actively work on that. She got the message and the subject quickly ended. It’s interesting what you find out about family even as you get older. I often wonder how we can be so different growing up in the same environment. We must all do better!!!! I’ll watch those videos tonight!!!! Thank you.

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    1. Acho’s video is powerful — and yup. Like you, I did not know who he was. I shared it on my FB page the other day and was surprised by the fact it didn’t get any attention until I realized, I’d only directed it to my youngest daughter, who seldom looks at her FB page.

      And thank you for the mention. It is a tough conversation and very, very important. Last summer I shared a post about an encounter I had at my old hairdressing salon when I popped in to buy some shampoo. While it’s about homelessness, it is also about discrimination – I’ve shared the link in case you want to read it — What is interesting is that as I went back to find it to link here, I discovered there were many comments that I missed responding to — something I do not like having happen on my blog! And then I realized why I didn’t respond. I was immersed in a personal crisis and missed it all!

      And that, is life.

      Oh dear. Here I’ve gone and written a novel in response.

      Thank you for being courageous in bringing this conversation forward Bernie. We all need to do whatever we can to create space for Black Lives Matter to be heard.


      1. I remember the post that you linked to Louise. Yes discrimination and racism can be found in so many settings and unfortunately even within our own families as one of the other commenters mentioned (as did I). It’s a conversation that we do need to keep having and we all need to do better. Sometimes in the small circle I live within it feels like that won’t have much impact but that doesn’t mean it isn’t important.
        Thanks for dropping in and commenting.


    2. Thanks for the thoughtful comment. It’s been eons since you’ve dropped in and so it’s nice to hear from you. Yes isn’t it interesting that the 9 of us had such a similar background growing up but …..
      Yes I know in my working career I focused hard on not being racist but realize I must take that a step further. It will be a work in progress (to borrow a quilt term) for all of us.


  3. Thoughtful post for sure, Bernie. We are all looking for a way to make a difference that results in the needed change. Many of us have realized there is a problem for a long time, but we all thought that white privilege did not refer to us. It does, when you realize we get better treatment because of it. If you want to watch a short program that will shake you to the core, watch Hassan Minhaj’s Patriot Act on Black Lives Matter. It is on Netflix. Also, Colbert has been brilliant this week in analysing the situation and his interview with Cory Booker will make you cry. Why did Cory not get better support in his run for president? There is still a long road ahead, bt the more we speak up, the further and faster change will come. Stay well keep speaking up. Allan


    1. Allan. I will indeed remind myself how to get onto Netflix and watch the first one you mentioned. Who is Colbert and where would I find his interviews? I will admit I don’t, as a rule, follow American politics closely. I do keep well abreast of Canadian issues and feel we have some serious reforms required within our police forces for sure.
      White privilege along with winning the birth lottery means we have had a road with a lot less obstacles without our even realizing it. Thanks for the thoughtful comment. Take care.

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  4. Compassion and education begin at home at an early age. All of us have some things to think about, and every one of us making small changes can make a big difference. Let’s start now!


    1. Which is why it’s up to us to help with the next generation as well as changing our own mindsets and realizing how our white privilege has actually impacted not just ourselves but others. Thanks for the comment.


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