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That Day

The alarm slowly brought me to consciousness and I opened my eyes to

sunshine streaming in the window. I faced an open calendar day but so many will embrace what today is if you live by the educational calendar.

For those of us past those years we look back. For me there is a mixture of fondness and sadness.

I went to a small town school. There was no “who’s class will I be in” nor even any surprise about who the teacher would be. It was just a continuation along the 12 years and for the farm kids like myself a chance to socialize. Friendships were long lasting and often influenced by who are parent’s friends were. Life did indeed seem simpler then. We had rules and chores but a vast outside play world.

Fast forward a couple of decades to being the parent of children attending city schools. I suspect I was often as nervous as my offspring. Class sizes, teachers and friends were huge factors. Some years started smoother tha others and remember a scramble those Sept mornings were in the early years. It was always good to get settled back into a routine.

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There still isn’t a routine here 6 months in. I’ve enjoyed this summer immensely; I’ve not had so much sunshine and outside time since my mat leave in the summer of 1987. But pumpkin spice season has arrived and I wonder if now, at the usual starting point of new endeavors, will I get settled? Is there a grace period in retirement as you muddle along and then the light goes on.

5 years ago I started this personal blog (the house one dates back to 2006) and I remember how much I had to learn. I had wanted to start it with a back to school story and corresponding photo but alas could not find the picture. I’ve searched again and still can’t find it. I believe it resides in an album at my mom’s house. This time I have less angst about the missing photo and that particular story. Perhaps I will finally get it recorded next year on the first day of school.

In light of the countless social media posts today with back to school photo I did pull one from the archives. The albums, that 5 years ago, lived in boxes in the storage room are now chronologically arranged in the restored cupboard.

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Today was full; busy, productive and with a dusk/moon light bike training ride. I’ve done my lunch, organized my backpack for my return to work (2+ weeks off) and am blogging at 10:45. Maybe not that much had changed since I retired. Still pumping my days full; squeezing in fitness and friends. Tucking precious grandchildren time into the memory bank because all too soon it will be Little A turned into Young A that will be heading off.

Life cycles onward… And even though I had a better ending I’ve lost it as the thread moved over somewhere else. The gist of it was about continuing to learn as we age. That there must be more to retirement than just busy. And now — tomorrow is another day.

Bernie

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I have had a love of the written word for my entire life. It's no surprise that eventually I found a platform where I could write. It's random; sometimes funny, occasionally sad, maybe even at times from anger and I lean towards creative photography and hands on crafts. I have a few blogs that high light these interests.

6 thoughts on “That Day

  1. Thanks for this post Bernie. I think in some ways, it is natural we treat it like a job if only because ‘a job’ has been a big focal point of our life, and letting go of that way of being takes time, and loving care.
    I am now into month 4. I have little routine and right now, little energy to create one (mostly related to some family issues going on). I like what Allan wrote about ‘going where he’s pointed’. Today, going where I’m pointed is to spend time in healthy self-care as I remind myself, I can’t take care of others if I don’t first take care of myself.
    Wishing you a beautiful day.

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    1. I have zero routine and I think I would do better if I had some semblance of one. Spring was full of this and that, summer was spent outside with the garden, the littles and construction but fall, I feel, is the right time to find a rhythm. Hope your energy and time settles into what you need. Thanks for taking the time and energy to connect with me about this topic.

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  2. I have just turned 54 today, it’s still few more years to go before I retire. But time to time I wonder what it is like to enjoy retired life. I have brought some of my childhood photos from my mother’s house recently and precious memories came with them, reminded me of how precious life is 💫

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    1. I’m not going to lie — it takes some serious head space adjusting to get into retirement.
      Yes photos are so precious. I must remember to scan the ones at my mom’s house next time.

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  3. Retirement does seem odd, does it not, Bernie. I am almost at 5 years and now loving it. It was not always thus. Right after retirement, I went on a 7 1/2 week travel vacation in celebration, arriving back in Alberta in mid January….that was poorly planned. I then threw myself into home renos until the end of July. Holy S—, I was treating retirement as if it was a job. I managed some fun in the summer, gardening, hiking, biking, short trips, reading. I promised myself, it would be different next year. It was, my renos stopped in May, but I had 3 weddings to plan for. 3 weddings in 6 weeks, 2 of them, my boys. The year went by in a blur. At this point, I seem to have a routine, I just go where I am pointed. Days are still full, but they are full of the stuff I want to do, but if I want to take a break, I do. You will get there, when all this stops feeling odd and starts feels normal. Enjoy, but always prepare for the unexpected. That is where the fun can be. Allan

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    1. Thanks for the five year perspective and for leaving a comment. It helps me realize that I’m not the only one that had to adjust. My husband still works from home so that’s also in the equation. No major trips but I have indeed thrown myself into it like it’s a job. Perhaps as time goes on I will develop a bit more balance.

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