There are upsides and downsides to having an empty nest. It seems to take many years to get there these years as the boomerang generation come and go from home. It can be a bittersweet as it means you no longer have daily contact with those off spring that are near and dear to your heart. Having an empty nest gives you a lot of freedom when it comes to meals, neatness and your budget. It also means you have to find the line in keeping in touch with your children and being helpful but not bossy or interfering. I must admit that I find that line tough to find and tougher to walk. There are times when I just want to jump in and do things for our kids and must restrain myself.
Life is a lot easier when your children are two as you are their whole world. Those years are so busy that it feels like you don’t have time to catch your breath. Then their world expands to include school and activities and it feels like you have relinquished a bit of the control but they are still your total responsibility. Once high school hits they start to make some of their own decisions and then the future seems suddenly more out of focus. Perhaps I am a bit nostalgic as I have seen so many photos of graduations in the last few days, all the way from kindergarten to high school. Plus our “little” one convocated from University. I’ve also been swimming at the outdoor pool this week and that always makes me miss the younger years with the kids and their friends.
Or perhaps I just feel a little bit out of the loop because our son went away biking to the mountains and didn’t even let us know. Our daughter and son in law went to his old farm for the day and we weren’t aware until they were already there. Which is all how it should be — they grow up and move on but keep in touch. Which is ironically funny because they never read my blog posts so they won’t know any of this!